So you want to have the perfect wedding. Well guess what, it is already so relax. You will have a dress, have shoes on your feet, your partner will know you are the most beautiful woman in the room, food will be served, people will dance, and you will get married. Now read this next sentence out loud. My wedding will be perfect because my love and I will say YES to becoming one in holy matrimony. Isn’t that the point?
I know it’s not that simple but I want to shed some perspective with you that I hope helps your unrealistic goal of perfection and help calm those nerves that are barely staying under control. You are experiencing a huge transition and it is only normal to feel overwhelmed. It’s all OK! There is a lot to do but busy does not mean perfect or have to be stressful. You don’t have to do it alone. Ask for help. Let people help you.
Recently I asked bridal industry expert Donna Ennis, Founder and President at “Top Wedding Sites, Inc.” as well as the online bridal resource “Pop the Questions” www.topweddingsites.com what were the top three stressors a bride experiences? First on the list was trying to plan the perfect wedding. Keep posted for the other two, I will be blogging.
Many brides want to have the “perfect wedding.” There are websites called the “Perfect Wedding”. Blogs are written on how to have the perfect wedding and the media will tell you that you can have the perfect wedding. Aren’t you sick of hearing the word perfect by now? I am.
I wanted to know what is a perfect wedding so I googled it. I discovered that when I googled “what is the perfect wedding?” a list of things came up. The dress, the flowers, the cake, favors, music, first dance, seating charts, photographer, color combos, the event venue etc. etc. etc. and I could go on and on. I was looking for the weather but I guess “whomever” plans the perfect wedding admitted to themselves that they can’t control the weather. Imagine, on your wedding day it rains! Will you still get married? YES! And I suggest you and your love laugh, kiss and dance in the rain. That would be creating a memory that will satisfy your hearts and souls.
What I didn’t read were the words that will give your wedding the qualities that feel like perfection. Words like love, affection, devotion, friendship, marriage, partner, joy, gratitude, family, health, spirituality, integrity, poise, trust, faith or honor. Where are they??? Let go of any expectations of what “perfect” is and take the actions necessary to have a wonderful celebration. Then let it go. Don’t get caught up with the “stuff”. Honor yourself, honor your love, enjoy this special time when you are able to be with you. It’s precious.
Your wedding day is one of the most important days in your life. It is a ritual witnessed by friends and family of you and your beloved confessing your commitment to each other in marriage. It is a celebration, and it is one day. If you focus on the feelings, give yourself time to meditate on them, place them in your heart mind and soul, I promise, you will be glowing from the inside out and feel the glory of real love and connection to what is important, the vows that you make and the steps that you take to transition you into this next new chapter in your life… marriage.
Written by: Mary Gulivindala
Mary is the Founder of Blue Print Life & Wellness Coaching which specializes in Bridal Coaching. To learn more about the services offered please call 267-505-1779 or go to www.blueprintlife-wellnesscoaching.com . Contact: firstname.lastname@example.org. Please contact for speaking engagements and availability.